Sometimes we go through things in life where all we can say is, “Why God, Why?” I’ve heard people ask this question many times. Christians and non-Christians alike, tend to have moments where all you can say is, “why God, why? “ I have experienced these moments in my life, moments where it felt like I was doing everything I was supposed to do, but things were still going wrong. I’ve also had moment when I have treated others the way I wanted to be treated; you know…the whole Golden Rule thing, yet they still wronged me in some way. Moments like that make me want to ask, “why God, why?” I’ve seen bad things happen to good people. I’ve counseled families that lost a loved one unexpectedly, watched good parents cry over the choices their children have made, and witnessed little children in a battle for their lives as they war against the disease raging through their bodies. All of these things make me want to scream, “why God, why?
So, what if I screamed out at the top of my lungs, “Why God?” What would the outcome be? What if He answered me.? What if He didn’t answer me? Has God broken some promise by not answering me? Has he proven himself unfaithful by allowing these things to happen in our lives? I don’t believe so. The truth of the matter is that Jesus told us we would go through troubles in life. He told us we would have to face things that we did not want to face. You will not find a passage in the Bible that says bad things will never happen to good people. What you will find in Scripture is the answer for how we are to handle these things and the promise that we won’t have to go through it alone. Jesus, prior to His death, burial, and resurrection, told His disciple that in this world they would have trouble, but to be of good cheer because He had overcome the world. He was preparing them to face hard times. Notice that He did not say, “Now that you are my disciple, nothing bad will ever happen to you.” We are going to face hard times. We are going to have trouble in our lives. We are going to face situations that make us want to throw up our hands and yell, “WHY GOD, WHY?”
So why do we face those situations? The simple answer is that we live in a fallen, sinful world, full of fallen, sinful people. Often times, we find ourselves caught up in someone else’s sin. Hence the parents crying over their children’s choices, or the person who has just found out that their spouse is cheating on them. We have to prepare ourselves to face the troubles we are going to face on a regular basis. The Bible gives us some insight into how to do this. First, the Bible tells us, “do not be anxious about anything, but in ALL things, through prayer, supplication, and giving of thanks, let your request be made known to God,”(Philippians 4:6). Secondly, the Bible tells us to, “cast all of our anxieties on God because He cares for us,” (1 Peter 5:7). The key is to give it over to God…to let go of it and let God handle it. It is not easy, but it will help you if you can do it. I will admit, I struggle with implementing this myself.
A part of the problem for me personally, and I am guessing that I am not alone in this, is that I want the problems to be fixed on my timetable. I don’t want to go through trouble, especially the trouble I did not cause. I want to understand why things happen, and not just settle for the fact that stuff happens. I want to be able to give answers to the hurting and the grieving. I WANT TO BE IN CONTROL…and therein lies the frustration…it is the lack of control, the uncertainty, and the fear of realizing just how little control I actually have. But there is one thing I can control in every situation, my response. I can choose to respond out of fear and frustration. I can throw my hands up and ask, “why God, why?” I can fight against that which I cannot figure out OR I can choose to trust God. That “OR” in the middle of the last sentence means that I have options, I have a say in the matter. I can choose to believe that He is in control, that He has overcome the world, and that He has a plan and a purpose, even for my pain. I CAN CHOOSE! Remember, the Bible has told us how we are to handle bad situations; we get to choose how we respond. God also makes us a promise in His word, that we don’t have to go through it alone. He has promised to never leave us nor forsake us. Even when we don’t feel Him near, He is there. Luke 12:7 tells us that God knows the number of hairs on our head…He cares about us that much. Surely our pain grieves Him but it has a purpose. We have to remember His sovereignty, and trust in His faithfulness. So, when we are tempted to yell our, “why God, why?” we need to remember that He is Lord of all, so we don’t need to be.
Instead of saying, “Why God,” try saying, “Lord, I trust You…even in the midst of this mess, I trust You. Even though I am dealing with a problem I did not create and receiving treatment I do not deserve, I trust You…Even though I’m hurting, I’m choosing to trust You. I might be frustrated and confused, but I am choosing to respond in faith instead of fear…I trust You and I”m giving it over to You” Cast all of your cares on Him because He cares for you!
Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all of your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6